The days are getting easier with less tension and worry. We can now go for days without a fight or a struggle and life is becoming normal. We have been there before but I feel as if the other shoe has already dropped so one day at a time we walk with God. This has become a great thing for all of us. We have taken a lot of the hurry out of life and yet, as promised we are provided for.
Allie is doing well. She is a new and improved person as she walks the trail of recovery. You reach an odd point when the person does not know they are recovering to the time they realize that something is different and they themselves understand it. The better part is when they actually work towards recovering themselves with that goal in mind. What can I do to help myself recover? In business there is the story about different levels of person. The unconscious incompetent - they don't know they don't know; the conscious competent - they know they don't know; the conscious competent - they have the think about what they are doing and the unconscious competent - this is what we all strive for - being so good at something that it is automatic - second nature. This is what all brain injuries strive for - becoming the conscious competent. We are not there yet but time and caring people her will allow her to reach her fullest recovery.
Allie has become very bored sitting around the house while mom or dad worked and has taken some steps to solve that. She has become a volunteer at a church day care center and she loves it. Only been there once so far but she has a great time with little children and her heart is so big that that are automatically attracted to her. She will also begin waiting tables again this week. The inn where she worked before opens tomorrow and they offered her her position back. Now for the crazy part. With her personality she wanted to do some DJ work so she was to train with a comapny but they wanted to get out of the DJ business and focus on their equipment rentals so, you guessed it, we are now in the DJ business. Stay tuned for that one. Thank God we have their best DJ (Marcus) staying with us and he isa training Allie - First gig is Friday night at a middle school dance. Just one more way for me to lose my sanity but we walk all avenues.
Right now we are looking at more colleges for Allie in the area. Today I will pick up the class schedules for summer school from our local CC and she will take one or two classes right her in our town to she how she does. Nest week I will fly her to a college in Salisbury, NC where she will sing at an audition. Who knows? Great school, great college (Catawba) but in the mountain of NC and not the lights of Broadway (yet)
The only negative and believe me it is not a negative about becoming aware is the sadness that accomapnies the realization she has of what was and what is. It is not bad or often and I think 3 days of rain and being inside can trigger it in anyone but still, counseling should help.
Well off to work. Hope you all have a great day. We love you and thank you for your thoughts, prayers and gifts. May you always be blessed.
Allie's Dad
Monday, March 31, 2008
Wednesday, March 19, 2008
Wednesday Evening, March 18th, 2008
Hi Everyone
Just a quick note to update everyone to Allie's whereabouts. For the last five weeks she has been home with us. School didn't work out but it was a heck of an effort. We are enthusiastically looking forward to September or whenever. Right now Allie is just healing and is looking for a part time job possibly in a day care. She has a gift working with little children - they have always been very attracted to her. She is back to her singing lessons and looking for ways to stay active. Right now she is kind of just plain bored but tomorrow we will visit a couple of local churches that have day cares in them and the inn where she waitress' will be opening in another week. We will be going back to some therapies in a week. Anything and everything - right?
On a more fun side she did get her nose pierced and believe it or not it is just adorable - even big daddy approved - aw heck - I took her to get it and she was brave - even when I couldn't go in the room with her. She wanted to back out once in the room but she went through with it - it was a big step. She is getting back into putting on makeup and being fashionable.
We have little tiffs but nothing like before and they end almost as soon as they begin. We spent 5 days at the beach together and had a great time.
Well she is now home (right where she belongs) and accepting mail at 91 Ugedaliyvi Ct. (yeah I spelled it right), Brevard, NC 28712.
Thank you all so much for your continued prayers and support.
God Bless You - Happy Easter
Allie's Dad
Just a quick note to update everyone to Allie's whereabouts. For the last five weeks she has been home with us. School didn't work out but it was a heck of an effort. We are enthusiastically looking forward to September or whenever. Right now Allie is just healing and is looking for a part time job possibly in a day care. She has a gift working with little children - they have always been very attracted to her. She is back to her singing lessons and looking for ways to stay active. Right now she is kind of just plain bored but tomorrow we will visit a couple of local churches that have day cares in them and the inn where she waitress' will be opening in another week. We will be going back to some therapies in a week. Anything and everything - right?
On a more fun side she did get her nose pierced and believe it or not it is just adorable - even big daddy approved - aw heck - I took her to get it and she was brave - even when I couldn't go in the room with her. She wanted to back out once in the room but she went through with it - it was a big step. She is getting back into putting on makeup and being fashionable.
We have little tiffs but nothing like before and they end almost as soon as they begin. We spent 5 days at the beach together and had a great time.
Well she is now home (right where she belongs) and accepting mail at 91 Ugedaliyvi Ct. (yeah I spelled it right), Brevard, NC 28712.
Thank you all so much for your continued prayers and support.
God Bless You - Happy Easter
Allie's Dad
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Sunday Morning, March, 15th
Hi Everyone
Here we are 10 months after the accident and still healing. WIll be for a long time to come. When people told us initially to save our energy because head trauma is a marathon they were not kidding. We are probably around the 15 mile marker - thank goodness for all of the caring people who have stood by us as we continue to help our daughter heal.
To keep you updated, Allie is at home with us and has been for around a month. School was not the best route to go and just added extra stress to all of us. We all gave it a go and it certainly was the right thing to do. Since Allie's been home it has been great. We are spending a lot of time together and doing a lot of growing, not onlt in the sense of physical as I think that is secondary to the emotional and spititual growth and healing that we have gone and are going through. It's truly amazing to be a part of a rebirth.
I have been actively seeking new therapists for Allie ie: cognative training and psychotherapy and it a lot, lot, lot harder to find the right people than I ever would have imagined and then there are those that seem to want to help but never call you back. I know God is putting the right people in the right places for us. Boy trauma certainly changes your life's experience or is it the experience you are supposed to be having. A long time ago, nancy and I took ourselves out of the picture and realized that we needed to dedicate our lives to the children and it has helped. Putting your own needs on the back burned to help someone else is unconditional love and it help make our world right.
It still seems wierd to me that I am writing about a little girl who has come so far when so many of my friends are are moving at a less quick pace but I guess that is what I have been called to do. Maybe our story gives others hope and inspiration and if nothing else maybe thay will know we love then and we can help be thier rock.
For those that are wondering what is going on with Full Recovery, we are still moving forward. I think I was moving to quickly and needed to heal myself a little more but currently we are still seeking a web designed who will do our project and not cost a fortune. We have at last count over 185 pages of information to be posted (all in word document) if anyone wants to jump in and we are taking the names of people who would like to join our prayer group as an internet prayer partner. If this is something you would like to do, please e-mail me at drcagen@citcom.net
Allie had her best day yesterday since coming home. She was clear and happy, no confrontation and it was a joyful day.
We have also created another blog called http://www.howtosurvivethehospital.blogspot.com/ this is a forum hof peoples hospital stories both good and bad and allows them to give us advice to be used on the web site as to how they managed to survive their stay. How to survive the hospital is not negative but very postive we want to hear what you did to survive as a family and what you did to survive the medical staff and the medical bills. We also want to know what techniques you employed, what you liked and did not like and how you made your experience better. We will then share this information on our site.
That's all for today. We love and appreciate you!
Allie's Dad
Here we are 10 months after the accident and still healing. WIll be for a long time to come. When people told us initially to save our energy because head trauma is a marathon they were not kidding. We are probably around the 15 mile marker - thank goodness for all of the caring people who have stood by us as we continue to help our daughter heal.
To keep you updated, Allie is at home with us and has been for around a month. School was not the best route to go and just added extra stress to all of us. We all gave it a go and it certainly was the right thing to do. Since Allie's been home it has been great. We are spending a lot of time together and doing a lot of growing, not onlt in the sense of physical as I think that is secondary to the emotional and spititual growth and healing that we have gone and are going through. It's truly amazing to be a part of a rebirth.
I have been actively seeking new therapists for Allie ie: cognative training and psychotherapy and it a lot, lot, lot harder to find the right people than I ever would have imagined and then there are those that seem to want to help but never call you back. I know God is putting the right people in the right places for us. Boy trauma certainly changes your life's experience or is it the experience you are supposed to be having. A long time ago, nancy and I took ourselves out of the picture and realized that we needed to dedicate our lives to the children and it has helped. Putting your own needs on the back burned to help someone else is unconditional love and it help make our world right.
It still seems wierd to me that I am writing about a little girl who has come so far when so many of my friends are are moving at a less quick pace but I guess that is what I have been called to do. Maybe our story gives others hope and inspiration and if nothing else maybe thay will know we love then and we can help be thier rock.
For those that are wondering what is going on with Full Recovery, we are still moving forward. I think I was moving to quickly and needed to heal myself a little more but currently we are still seeking a web designed who will do our project and not cost a fortune. We have at last count over 185 pages of information to be posted (all in word document) if anyone wants to jump in and we are taking the names of people who would like to join our prayer group as an internet prayer partner. If this is something you would like to do, please e-mail me at drcagen@citcom.net
Allie had her best day yesterday since coming home. She was clear and happy, no confrontation and it was a joyful day.
We have also created another blog called http://www.howtosurvivethehospital.blogspot.com/ this is a forum hof peoples hospital stories both good and bad and allows them to give us advice to be used on the web site as to how they managed to survive their stay. How to survive the hospital is not negative but very postive we want to hear what you did to survive as a family and what you did to survive the medical staff and the medical bills. We also want to know what techniques you employed, what you liked and did not like and how you made your experience better. We will then share this information on our site.
That's all for today. We love and appreciate you!
Allie's Dad
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