Hi Everyone
Time really gets by ya when you are taking care of Allie. After breakfast yesterday we got back tot he house and I had to quickly run back home. I told Nancy I would stay with Allie because Allie is very antaganistic with Nancy so Nancy and Matt went out for the day and got back arount 5:30?
During the time they were gone Allie and I had a ball. We played board games and cards for a few hours, then went to the club house and got candy, came home played cards and games somemore - even trivial pursuit for juniors. She did great and got alot of questions right. Back to the club house to play ping pong, never realized she had a good game and then back home to cook dinner. After dinner we just sat on the couch and watched Bam Margeria's crazt televison show for about 2 hours. This guys nuts but funny.
It's really a wierd time during recovery. You can not allow yourself to think of the person or who they were before the accident because that is so destructive. There is no before the accicent - there is only today and the future. To allow yourself to think about your loved one preinjury could make you spend your whole crying instead of enjoying the beautiful new rebirthing of your child, friend or family member. To those wre ho are having difficulty letting go, I am so sorry. It just that Allie is so beautiful, that when she smiles her eyes are so innocent are are just saying please love me and stay with me - to do anything else or to let her see the sadness in my heart is to do her a huge disservice, so I make it go away replace it with laughter, teaching and healing. There is no why only OK. There is no past only future. There is no me, only her.
This morning while everyone else was sleeping we hung out, talked, watched MAD TV and then she cooked scrambled eggs with cheese (all by herself) and we had breakfast together. Someday she will be gone and I will miss these days when we hung out and I had her all to myself.
I still don;t know if she understands her injury or even if she is injured but deep down I know her innate intelligence is working had to get her back to where she was and better. Some times I see her talking to herself or just standing there and I know that she is running through things in her head putting things back together and remembering. It's kind of like looking for files or pieces of information in her head. I like to see it working.
She has just begun playing this computer game again. I don't know what it's called but it has alot of boxes and if you pick the wrong box you find a bomb and the game is over. It's really hard and I could never do it but she could win everytime at the hardestlevel. I don't kow if she is winning, really don't care but what truly excited me is that she is trying. It seem like everyday she tries new things that she used to do before the accident.
Thinking about the games and playing shows me she is using strategy which is great cognative skill returning. I donlt know, very emotional today. She makes me laugh. I just gave new a white board I bought so she could make notes on it and I went into the other room and she had drawn a picture of two people - her and me and on me she wrote smelly and had lines coming off of it to show stinky. Funny kid huh? But I like it, semse of humor (I hope) and drawing skills.
Right now she wants to go downtown and go shopping so off we go. I am trying to get her off of the right now thing so I keep putting it off for a few minutes. Well Nancy just got up so I am going to go. One thing she just brought up is that Allie is beginning to hang out by herself which is great, also we noticed that in the last few days she has not watched The Millie video nearly as much. All progress and signs of Full Recovery - Never a Doubt - Right Guys.
On another note, there is another young lady that needs our prayers and love. Her name is Rachel Juliano and her mom found our blog and wrote to us. You may read her story at www.caringbridge.org/visit/racheljuliano . She is an absolutely beautiful young lady in need of our prayer warriors around the world so let's all get busy and help make anoter miricle and Full Recovery happen.
I love you all millions and billions
Allie's Dad
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Steve, your comments are always warm my heart. You are so right about there is not before, there is only NOW and who Allie is now each and every day. Every day brings new joys some pain, but always progress. We are with you every moment in prayers and sending healing thoughts. Allie is a blessed young woman to have you, Nancy, Matt and all the wonderful family members and friends in her life. She is a special, special girl.
We are looking so forward to seeing Nancy next week!! And, of course, seeing you and getting a big hug. We love you.
Tibby
(((hugs))) you are so strong for Allie. You are a great father! It must be hard for you though. I can't even imagine. Take care of yourself and Nancy. Make sure you guys take breaks, just the two of you. Take a walk and enjoy the weather, whatever it may be. I love to go for a walk in the rain when everything is being rejuvinated! It's beautiful and the color of everything is intensified. You could even remember then, and cry a little, and no one would be the wiser. Stay strong. ~Donna
I read the blog daily and I hear Brie's comments about Allie and I am so delirious that all is going so well. I had worried about the home coming but it sounds like this is going well too. Glad Nancy and you will be able to get help and get back to work. Caregivers become so engrossed in their loved ones that they do forget to take care of themselves. That is a well documented fact so do take time for yourselves.
I hear the nurse is fabulous and did not God and the angels drop her right in your lap?
From the moment of the accident you can just see how all of you have been helped with everything, from the people at the site to the
best doctors.
To help at Mc D's house, to help with straightening insurance issues.
Again a great rehab center and a homecoming with a band of angels.
I am surprised you guys can't her them sing. The Divine protection has been there with every step.
SO ...ending my preaching I would say that it is no surprise to me that one day you will see her name in lights (if that is what she wants) on Broadway.
Nancy, Steve and Matt you are all in the company of angels and you are wearing hallos yourself!
Did you ever think, all of you, that you would find this kind of strenght before May?
Hugs,Jeannot
Dear Steve, Nancy, Allie and Matt,
It's so amazing that Allie is putting complex tasks together and carrying them out - just 3 months shy of her accident. Wow - cooking breakfast all by herself? When you see her quietly processing her thoughts, getting the steps straight, it is a reflection of her tenacity and ability. She's come such a long way in a short span of time. Good for you Allie!! Nancy, getting back to work is great news for you - everything is really coming together. All our best.
Always in our thoughts and prayers.
Love, Clare and Kim
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